I’d wager you have weak stabilizers CAUSING tight muscles. This why doing the same thing over and over isn’t working. You don’t need more “relax, release and loosen.” You need a different approach.
Deciding you don’t care… you just want what feels good, isn’t helping you.
Don’t be discouraged. I have figured it out, and I can help you. I use my friends (whom are coaches) as the experts for my kids.